This is coming from someone with BPD and gets extremely attached to whomever he's dating.
While this strategy is not "healthy" it's what works and it's much preferable to being a gloomy ass person that will ruin their life from just one girl.
When a man goes through a breakup with someone he loves, there's "typically" 5 stages:
Denial
Anger - Gay
Bargaining - Gay
Depression - Super lame and gay
Acceptance - Awesome
This is to show how you can go straight to acceptance without the extreme pain and discomfort after losing a loved one.
First of all its important to embrace your value as a man yourself, most peoples thoughts after a breakup are "I'll never find someone like that again" YES YOU WILL, as much as you believe when you're with someone just how special they are, you'll always find someone thats better than them, remember you guys didn't work for a reason.
Never spend a single day doing nothing after a breakup, even if my friends are busy im at the pub or a social event every single day, if you don't have a job and can't afford this then get one. Doing this especially paired with getting drunk everyday will make it clear to you that you can still have fun even after being dumped or leaving someone you had to.
Now the most important part, finding someone new, i recommend this 1-2 weeks after a breakup as you can't be getting drunk everyday for long periods of time. If you still don't feel ready to find a new relationship then build a roster, I'll post a guide sometime later on how to do this relatively easily. Even after the partying and social activities you can still miss your ex, my suggestion and what has worked for me is to fuck other girls as long as they are objectively more attractive than your ex, this will almost instantly relieve you of any thoughts and make you think better about yourself and putting yourself on a higher pedestal than your ex. Also important to note you should never masturbate unless you have a roster or a girlfriend, it's extremely demeaning and pathetic to beat your meat to other people having sex when you can't or arent getting any.
You won't MOVE ON until you actually proceed with your sexual and dating life, i don't know why anyone imposes you need to wait 6 or 9 months or some stupid shit, if they've made it clear or you've made it clear that you're both DONE with each other, then don't spend a good part of the year still hanging on due to some "respect" while you have no idea if they're out fucking anyone else, have some respect for yourself.
While this strategy is not "healthy" it's what works and it's much preferable to being a gloomy ass person that will ruin their life from just one girl.
When a man goes through a breakup with someone he loves, there's "typically" 5 stages:
Denial
Anger - Gay
Bargaining - Gay
Depression - Super lame and gay
Acceptance - Awesome
This is to show how you can go straight to acceptance without the extreme pain and discomfort after losing a loved one.
First of all its important to embrace your value as a man yourself, most peoples thoughts after a breakup are "I'll never find someone like that again" YES YOU WILL, as much as you believe when you're with someone just how special they are, you'll always find someone thats better than them, remember you guys didn't work for a reason.
Never spend a single day doing nothing after a breakup, even if my friends are busy im at the pub or a social event every single day, if you don't have a job and can't afford this then get one. Doing this especially paired with getting drunk everyday will make it clear to you that you can still have fun even after being dumped or leaving someone you had to.
Now the most important part, finding someone new, i recommend this 1-2 weeks after a breakup as you can't be getting drunk everyday for long periods of time. If you still don't feel ready to find a new relationship then build a roster, I'll post a guide sometime later on how to do this relatively easily. Even after the partying and social activities you can still miss your ex, my suggestion and what has worked for me is to fuck other girls as long as they are objectively more attractive than your ex, this will almost instantly relieve you of any thoughts and make you think better about yourself and putting yourself on a higher pedestal than your ex. Also important to note you should never masturbate unless you have a roster or a girlfriend, it's extremely demeaning and pathetic to beat your meat to other people having sex when you can't or arent getting any.
You won't MOVE ON until you actually proceed with your sexual and dating life, i don't know why anyone imposes you need to wait 6 or 9 months or some stupid shit, if they've made it clear or you've made it clear that you're both DONE with each other, then don't spend a good part of the year still hanging on due to some "respect" while you have no idea if they're out fucking anyone else, have some respect for yourself.
