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Guide ULTIMATE GUIDE: Increasing EQ, Social Calibration, Inhibition Control

EqBeliever

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Today i will discuss further about the topic of EQ...

1. What EQ Actually Is

EQ = Emotional Intelligence
Already made a thread about EQ so make sure to check it out :


High EQ makes you appear confident, charismatic, and socially fluid.Low EQ makes you awkward, reactive, unable to connect.

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2. Inhibition & Social Fluidity

What is "inhib"?

Inhib = social inhibition. It's the internal brake that stops you from expressing, acting, or initiating socially.

Signs of High Inhib:

  • Overthinking before speaking.
  • Feeling frozen when attention is on you.
  • Reduced facial expressiveness.
  • Difficulty starting conversations.
  • Body language seems closed or rigid.

What lowers inhibition:

  • Exposure to social interaction (reps).
  • Body relaxation (physical and emotional).
  • Familiarity with environments.
  • Social success.
  • Feeling like the "in-group".

What raises inhibition:

  • Fear of judgment.
  • Lack of experience.
  • Trauma/shame memories.
  • Harsh self‑monitoring.
  • Low self-image.



3. Extroverts vs Introverts (Real Differences)

Not stereotypes — actual mechanisms.

Extroverts:

  • Lower baseline inhib.
  • Think through talking.
  • Process faster in real-time social situations.
  • More expressive non-verbally.

Dance Party Dancing GIF


Introverts:

  • Higher baseline inhib.
  • Prefer thinking before speaking.
  • Social battery drains quicker.
  • Often sharper at deep observation.

Lonely The Simpsons GIF



Both can become socially skilled, but they train differently.Introverts → optimize for comfort, preparation, and smaller circles.Extroverts → optimize for focus, depth, and controlling impulsivity.(Of course being a extrovert in this generation is better LMAOOO)





4. How to Raise EQ (Step-by-Step)


Step 1: Start with Self-Awareness

Journal prompts(i know this sound corny but its scientificaly proven):

  • "When do I feel tense socially?"
  • "What triggers overthinking?"
  • "How does my body react when I'm confident vs anxious?"
Track your emotions in real time.

Step 2: Build Social Intuition

Observe before participating:

  • How are people spacing themselves?
  • Who interrupts who?
  • Who leads the conversation?
  • What jokes land? What jokes are shit?
You learn 80% of social rules by watching.

Step 3: Social Reps System(for the ultra high inhibs)

Weekly social challenges:

  • 3 simple greetings ("hey, what's up?") to strangers.
  • Small talk with a cashier(preferably a foid).
  • One question per new conversation ("How’s your day been?").
  • One mini-story ("Today something funny happened...").
Reps build anti-inhib.

Step 4: Feedback Loop

Ask yourself after interactions:

  • "What worked? What didn’t?"
  • "Did I talk too fast?"
  • "Was I relaxed or tense?"
Iterate like a gym workout.



Conor Mcgregor Shut Up GIF by Dux



5. Social Power Dynamics & Calibration

Signs of High Social Calibration:

  • You match the tone of the group.
  • You don’t overshare.
  • You know when to talk vs listen.
  • You aren’t shocked by social tension.

Signs of Low Calibration:

  • Talking too much or too little.
  • Missing hidden meanings.
  • Laughing at the wrong times.
  • Not noticing discomfort.
  • Trying too hard.

How to Improve Calibration:

  • Mirror energy slightly below the group average.
  • Pay attention to microexpressions.
  • Notice how often people interrupt (it shows closeness).
  • Keep your responses short and clean.

Ending The End GIF by CyberKongz Official


In conclusion you will never have high EQ if ur already low EQ,this so called trainings and solutions cannot surpass a genetically born high EQ person!!!(NO HARDMAXXES FOR EQ AND IQ BOYOS)

leonardo dicaprio cheers GIF
 

Intouch

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Bro I used to have such low inhib but I dont know what happen now I often overthink before making the move atleast now I can push through but wish I didnt have to fight a mental battle with myself
 

reazy

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Today i will discuss further about the topic of EQ...

1. What EQ Actually Is

EQ = Emotional Intelligence
Already made a thread about EQ so make sure to check it out :


High EQ makes you appear confident, charismatic, and socially fluid.Low EQ makes you awkward, reactive, unable to connect.

View attachment 8719


2. Inhibition & Social Fluidity

What is "inhib"?

Inhib = social inhibition. It's the internal brake that stops you from expressing, acting, or initiating socially.

Signs of High Inhib:

  • Overthinking before speaking.
  • Feeling frozen when attention is on you.
  • Reduced facial expressiveness.
  • Difficulty starting conversations.
  • Body language seems closed or rigid.

What lowers inhibition:

  • Exposure to social interaction (reps).
  • Body relaxation (physical and emotional).
  • Familiarity with environments.
  • Social success.
  • Feeling like the "in-group".

What raises inhibition:

  • Fear of judgment.
  • Lack of experience.
  • Trauma/shame memories.
  • Harsh self‑monitoring.
  • Low self-image.



3. Extroverts vs Introverts (Real Differences)

Not stereotypes — actual mechanisms.

Extroverts:

  • Lower baseline inhib.
  • Think through talking.
  • Process faster in real-time social situations.
  • More expressive non-verbally.

Dance Party Dancing GIF


Introverts:

  • Higher baseline inhib.
  • Prefer thinking before speaking.
  • Social battery drains quicker.
  • Often sharper at deep observation.

Lonely The Simpsons GIF



Both can become socially skilled, but they train differently.Introverts → optimize for comfort, preparation, and smaller circles.Extroverts → optimize for focus, depth, and controlling impulsivity.(Of course being a extrovert in this generation is better LMAOOO)





4. How to Raise EQ (Step-by-Step)


Step 1: Start with Self-Awareness

Journal prompts(i know this sound corny but its scientificaly proven):

  • "When do I feel tense socially?"
  • "What triggers overthinking?"
  • "How does my body react when I'm confident vs anxious?"
Track your emotions in real time.

Step 2: Build Social Intuition

Observe before participating:

  • How are people spacing themselves?
  • Who interrupts who?
  • Who leads the conversation?
  • What jokes land? What jokes are shit?
You learn 80% of social rules by watching.

Step 3: Social Reps System(for the ultra high inhibs)

Weekly social challenges:

  • 3 simple greetings ("hey, what's up?") to strangers.
  • Small talk with a cashier(preferably a foid).
  • One question per new conversation ("How’s your day been?").
  • One mini-story ("Today something funny happened...").
Reps build anti-inhib.

Step 4: Feedback Loop

Ask yourself after interactions:

  • "What worked? What didn’t?"
  • "Did I talk too fast?"
  • "Was I relaxed or tense?"
Iterate like a gym workout.



Conor Mcgregor Shut Up GIF by Dux



5. Social Power Dynamics & Calibration

Signs of High Social Calibration:

  • You match the tone of the group.
  • You don’t overshare.
  • You know when to talk vs listen.
  • You aren’t shocked by social tension.

Signs of Low Calibration:

  • Talking too much or too little.
  • Missing hidden meanings.
  • Laughing at the wrong times.
  • Not noticing discomfort.
  • Trying too hard.

How to Improve Calibration:

  • Mirror energy slightly below the group average.
  • Pay attention to microexpressions.
  • Notice how often people interrupt (it shows closeness).
  • Keep your responses short and clean.

Ending The End GIF by CyberKongz Official


In conclusion you will never have high EQ if ur already low EQ,this so called trainings and solutions cannot surpass a genetically born high EQ person!!!(NO HARDMAXXES FOR EQ AND IQ BOYOS)

leonardo dicaprio cheers GIF
good thread but no actual solution
 

Tallcel

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Today i will discuss further about the topic of EQ...

1. What EQ Actually Is

EQ = Emotional Intelligence
Already made a thread about EQ so make sure to check it out :


High EQ makes you appear confident, charismatic, and socially fluid.Low EQ makes you awkward, reactive, unable to connect.

View attachment 8719


2. Inhibition & Social Fluidity

What is "inhib"?

Inhib = social inhibition. It's the internal brake that stops you from expressing, acting, or initiating socially.

Signs of High Inhib:

  • Overthinking before speaking.
  • Feeling frozen when attention is on you.
  • Reduced facial expressiveness.
  • Difficulty starting conversations.
  • Body language seems closed or rigid.

What lowers inhibition:

  • Exposure to social interaction (reps).
  • Body relaxation (physical and emotional).
  • Familiarity with environments.
  • Social success.
  • Feeling like the "in-group".

What raises inhibition:

  • Fear of judgment.
  • Lack of experience.
  • Trauma/shame memories.
  • Harsh self‑monitoring.
  • Low self-image.



3. Extroverts vs Introverts (Real Differences)

Not stereotypes — actual mechanisms.

Extroverts:

  • Lower baseline inhib.
  • Think through talking.
  • Process faster in real-time social situations.
  • More expressive non-verbally.

Dance Party Dancing GIF


Introverts:

  • Higher baseline inhib.
  • Prefer thinking before speaking.
  • Social battery drains quicker.
  • Often sharper at deep observation.

Lonely The Simpsons GIF



Both can become socially skilled, but they train differently.Introverts → optimize for comfort, preparation, and smaller circles.Extroverts → optimize for focus, depth, and controlling impulsivity.(Of course being a extrovert in this generation is better LMAOOO)





4. How to Raise EQ (Step-by-Step)


Step 1: Start with Self-Awareness

Journal prompts(i know this sound corny but its scientificaly proven):

  • "When do I feel tense socially?"
  • "What triggers overthinking?"
  • "How does my body react when I'm confident vs anxious?"
Track your emotions in real time.

Step 2: Build Social Intuition

Observe before participating:

  • How are people spacing themselves?
  • Who interrupts who?
  • Who leads the conversation?
  • What jokes land? What jokes are shit?
You learn 80% of social rules by watching.

Step 3: Social Reps System(for the ultra high inhibs)

Weekly social challenges:

  • 3 simple greetings ("hey, what's up?") to strangers.
  • Small talk with a cashier(preferably a foid).
  • One question per new conversation ("How’s your day been?").
  • One mini-story ("Today something funny happened...").
Reps build anti-inhib.

Step 4: Feedback Loop

Ask yourself after interactions:

  • "What worked? What didn’t?"
  • "Did I talk too fast?"
  • "Was I relaxed or tense?"
Iterate like a gym workout.



Conor Mcgregor Shut Up GIF by Dux



5. Social Power Dynamics & Calibration

Signs of High Social Calibration:

  • You match the tone of the group.
  • You don’t overshare.
  • You know when to talk vs listen.
  • You aren’t shocked by social tension.

Signs of Low Calibration:

  • Talking too much or too little.
  • Missing hidden meanings.
  • Laughing at the wrong times.
  • Not noticing discomfort.
  • Trying too hard.

How to Improve Calibration:

  • Mirror energy slightly below the group average.
  • Pay attention to microexpressions.
  • Notice how often people interrupt (it shows closeness).
  • Keep your responses short and clean.

Ending The End GIF by CyberKongz Official


In conclusion you will never have high EQ if ur already low EQ,this so called trainings and solutions cannot surpass a genetically born high EQ person!!!(NO HARDMAXXES FOR EQ AND IQ BOYOS)

leonardo dicaprio cheers GIF
great thread
:kim:
 

EqBeliever

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good thread but no actual solution
as i said in conslusion there is no actuall solution, youre either born with it or not.You can try these cope methods that will maybe help you socialize
 

BastiHgh

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Today i will discuss further about the topic of EQ...

1. What EQ Actually Is

EQ = Emotional Intelligence
Already made a thread about EQ so make sure to check it out :


High EQ makes you appear confident, charismatic, and socially fluid.Low EQ makes you awkward, reactive, unable to connect.

View attachment 8719


2. Inhibition & Social Fluidity

What is "inhib"?

Inhib = social inhibition. It's the internal brake that stops you from expressing, acting, or initiating socially.

Signs of High Inhib:

  • Overthinking before speaking.
  • Feeling frozen when attention is on you.
  • Reduced facial expressiveness.
  • Difficulty starting conversations.
  • Body language seems closed or rigid.

What lowers inhibition:

  • Exposure to social interaction (reps).
  • Body relaxation (physical and emotional).
  • Familiarity with environments.
  • Social success.
  • Feeling like the "in-group".

What raises inhibition:

  • Fear of judgment.
  • Lack of experience.
  • Trauma/shame memories.
  • Harsh self‑monitoring.
  • Low self-image.



3. Extroverts vs Introverts (Real Differences)

Not stereotypes — actual mechanisms.

Extroverts:

  • Lower baseline inhib.
  • Think through talking.
  • Process faster in real-time social situations.
  • More expressive non-verbally.

Dance Party Dancing GIF


Introverts:

  • Higher baseline inhib.
  • Prefer thinking before speaking.
  • Social battery drains quicker.
  • Often sharper at deep observation.

Lonely The Simpsons GIF



Both can become socially skilled, but they train differently.Introverts → optimize for comfort, preparation, and smaller circles.Extroverts → optimize for focus, depth, and controlling impulsivity.(Of course being a extrovert in this generation is better LMAOOO)





4. How to Raise EQ (Step-by-Step)


Step 1: Start with Self-Awareness

Journal prompts(i know this sound corny but its scientificaly proven):

  • "When do I feel tense socially?"
  • "What triggers overthinking?"
  • "How does my body react when I'm confident vs anxious?"
Track your emotions in real time.

Step 2: Build Social Intuition

Observe before participating:

  • How are people spacing themselves?
  • Who interrupts who?
  • Who leads the conversation?
  • What jokes land? What jokes are shit?
You learn 80% of social rules by watching.

Step 3: Social Reps System(for the ultra high inhibs)

Weekly social challenges:

  • 3 simple greetings ("hey, what's up?") to strangers.
  • Small talk with a cashier(preferably a foid).
  • One question per new conversation ("How’s your day been?").
  • One mini-story ("Today something funny happened...").
Reps build anti-inhib.

Step 4: Feedback Loop

Ask yourself after interactions:

  • "What worked? What didn’t?"
  • "Did I talk too fast?"
  • "Was I relaxed or tense?"
Iterate like a gym workout.



Conor Mcgregor Shut Up GIF by Dux



5. Social Power Dynamics & Calibration

Signs of High Social Calibration:

  • You match the tone of the group.
  • You don’t overshare.
  • You know when to talk vs listen.
  • You aren’t shocked by social tension.

Signs of Low Calibration:

  • Talking too much or too little.
  • Missing hidden meanings.
  • Laughing at the wrong times.
  • Not noticing discomfort.
  • Trying too hard.

How to Improve Calibration:

  • Mirror energy slightly below the group average.
  • Pay attention to microexpressions.
  • Notice how often people interrupt (it shows closeness).
  • Keep your responses short and clean.

Ending The End GIF by CyberKongz Official


In conclusion you will never have high EQ if ur already low EQ,this so called trainings and solutions cannot surpass a genetically born high EQ person!!!(NO HARDMAXXES FOR EQ AND IQ BOYOS)

leonardo dicaprio cheers GIF
Good one
 

Requiem

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Today i will discuss further about the topic of EQ...

1. What EQ Actually Is

EQ = Emotional Intelligence
Already made a thread about EQ so make sure to check it out :


High EQ makes you appear confident, charismatic, and socially fluid.Low EQ makes you awkward, reactive, unable to connect.

View attachment 8719


2. Inhibition & Social Fluidity

What is "inhib"?

Inhib = social inhibition. It's the internal brake that stops you from expressing, acting, or initiating socially.

Signs of High Inhib:

  • Overthinking before speaking.
  • Feeling frozen when attention is on you.
  • Reduced facial expressiveness.
  • Difficulty starting conversations.
  • Body language seems closed or rigid.

What lowers inhibition:

  • Exposure to social interaction (reps).
  • Body relaxation (physical and emotional).
  • Familiarity with environments.
  • Social success.
  • Feeling like the "in-group".

What raises inhibition:

  • Fear of judgment.
  • Lack of experience.
  • Trauma/shame memories.
  • Harsh self‑monitoring.
  • Low self-image.



3. Extroverts vs Introverts (Real Differences)

Not stereotypes — actual mechanisms.

Extroverts:

  • Lower baseline inhib.
  • Think through talking.
  • Process faster in real-time social situations.
  • More expressive non-verbally.

Dance Party Dancing GIF


Introverts:

  • Higher baseline inhib.
  • Prefer thinking before speaking.
  • Social battery drains quicker.
  • Often sharper at deep observation.

Lonely The Simpsons GIF



Both can become socially skilled, but they train differently.Introverts → optimize for comfort, preparation, and smaller circles.Extroverts → optimize for focus, depth, and controlling impulsivity.(Of course being a extrovert in this generation is better LMAOOO)





4. How to Raise EQ (Step-by-Step)


Step 1: Start with Self-Awareness

Journal prompts(i know this sound corny but its scientificaly proven):

  • "When do I feel tense socially?"
  • "What triggers overthinking?"
  • "How does my body react when I'm confident vs anxious?"
Track your emotions in real time.

Step 2: Build Social Intuition

Observe before participating:

  • How are people spacing themselves?
  • Who interrupts who?
  • Who leads the conversation?
  • What jokes land? What jokes are shit?
You learn 80% of social rules by watching.

Step 3: Social Reps System(for the ultra high inhibs)

Weekly social challenges:

  • 3 simple greetings ("hey, what's up?") to strangers.
  • Small talk with a cashier(preferably a foid).
  • One question per new conversation ("How’s your day been?").
  • One mini-story ("Today something funny happened...").
Reps build anti-inhib.

Step 4: Feedback Loop

Ask yourself after interactions:

  • "What worked? What didn’t?"
  • "Did I talk too fast?"
  • "Was I relaxed or tense?"
Iterate like a gym workout.



Conor Mcgregor Shut Up GIF by Dux



5. Social Power Dynamics & Calibration

Signs of High Social Calibration:

  • You match the tone of the group.
  • You don’t overshare.
  • You know when to talk vs listen.
  • You aren’t shocked by social tension.

Signs of Low Calibration:

  • Talking too much or too little.
  • Missing hidden meanings.
  • Laughing at the wrong times.
  • Not noticing discomfort.
  • Trying too hard.

How to Improve Calibration:

  • Mirror energy slightly below the group average.
  • Pay attention to microexpressions.
  • Notice how often people interrupt (it shows closeness).
  • Keep your responses short and clean.

Ending The End GIF by CyberKongz Official


In conclusion you will never have high EQ if ur already low EQ,this so called trainings and solutions cannot surpass a genetically born high EQ person!!!(NO HARDMAXXES FOR EQ AND IQ BOYOS)

leonardo dicaprio cheers GIF
nigga when is the study guide
 

Intouch

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as i said in conslusion there is no actuall solution, youre either born with it or not.You can try these cope methods that will maybe help you socialize
I do belive that most of eq has a correlation to iq which does add to the idea of you have it or not while inhabiton I do belive can be changed as long as the person doesnt have a sever case as most inhabition is a sort of fear or insecurity empathy is a really intresting one as I am able to understand the emotions of those around me but I really struggle to empathize with them and I find myself acting as though I care to come across as NT but this may be rooted in my minor Narcistic personality disorder
 
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