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This guide is to help people understand and recognise the different manipulation styles often used by people such as PUAs.
There isn't a set 'list' of every manipulation style and of course there are countless variations, but this thread is going to cover the core styles that revolve around neuropsychology, which is why they work so well. Also this is part 1 I will be making another thread explaining the other types soon but this took so long to make already. Stay tunedm.
There isn't a set 'list' of every manipulation style and of course there are countless variations, but this thread is going to cover the core styles that revolve around neuropsychology, which is why they work so well. Also this is part 1 I will be making another thread explaining the other types soon but this took so long to make already. Stay tunedm.
By Nous/paracelsus
Core Ideas: The manipulator (who i'll refer to from now on as M)
doesn't hide the fact that they're trying to get something,
in fact they often state it up front. They openly try to influence and pressure someone else's behaviour.
doesn't hide the fact that they're trying to get something,
in fact they often state it up front. They openly try to influence and pressure someone else's behaviour.
Key characteristics of this style:
1.Clear demands
2.Open pressure
3.Clear attempts to control
4.Minimal room for misinterpretation
5.Reliance on confidence,fear and authority
1.Clear demands
2.Open pressure
3.Clear attempts to control
4.Minimal room for misinterpretation
5.Reliance on confidence,fear and authority
Blackmail
"I want you to pay me or I'll share your secret"
"I want you to pay me or I'll share your secret"
Commands:
Instructions rather than requests; assumes authority
e.g: "Do it right now"
Ultimatums:
Giving the illusion of a forced choice; restricts options and forces action
e.g: "If you do that, we're breaking up"
Threats:
Makes negative consequences clear; activates fear
e.g: "You'll regret doing that"
Authority claims:
Using expertise, status or rank to leverage heirarchy
e.g: "I know better than you"
Explicit guilt:
Unlike guilt tripping, the guilt is stated openly
e.g: "You owe me for what I did"
Instructions rather than requests; assumes authority
e.g: "Do it right now"
Ultimatums:
Giving the illusion of a forced choice; restricts options and forces action
e.g: "If you do that, we're breaking up"
Threats:
Makes negative consequences clear; activates fear
e.g: "You'll regret doing that"
Authority claims:
Using expertise, status or rank to leverage heirarchy
e.g: "I know better than you"
Explicit guilt:
Unlike guilt tripping, the guilt is stated openly
e.g: "You owe me for what I did"
Fast
Clear
Effective for short term situations
Forces immediate action
Works well if there's power imbalance
Clear
Effective for short term situations
Forces immediate action
Works well if there's power imbalance
Resistance
Backstabbing
Very little trust
Backstabbing
Very little trust
Core ideas: The M influences someone without directly saying what they want.
Instead of using pressure or threats, they rely on hints, emotional cues, social dynamics or ambiguity
Instead of using pressure or threats, they rely on hints, emotional cues, social dynamics or ambiguity
Hidden agendas
Hints
Plausible deniability
Playing dumb
Avoiding confrontation
Ambiguity
Hints
Plausible deniability
Playing dumb
Avoiding confrontation
Ambiguity
"It's fine, I'll do it myself I'm used to it"
Hinting:
Suggesting rather than asking, creating pressure while being able to deny asking for anything
e.g: "I wish I had one of those"
Guilt tripping:
Makes someone feel responsible without asking explicitly; creating obligation through guilt
e.g: "Nobody ever invites me"
Playing the victim:
Using helplessness to trigger sympathy and rescue instincts
e.g: "Everything always goes wrong for me"
Triangulation:
Using other people to create pressure through conformity and social influence
e.g: "Everyone agrees with me"
Strategic silence:
Communicating through what isn't said to create uncertainty and anxiety
e.g: Ignoring messages and delayed responses
Plausible deniability:
Keeping intentions unclear to allow influence while avoiding accountability
e.g: "I was only joking"
Suggesting rather than asking, creating pressure while being able to deny asking for anything
e.g: "I wish I had one of those"
Guilt tripping:
Makes someone feel responsible without asking explicitly; creating obligation through guilt
e.g: "Nobody ever invites me"
Playing the victim:
Using helplessness to trigger sympathy and rescue instincts
e.g: "Everything always goes wrong for me"
Triangulation:
Using other people to create pressure through conformity and social influence
e.g: "Everyone agrees with me"
Strategic silence:
Communicating through what isn't said to create uncertainty and anxiety
e.g: Ignoring messages and delayed responses
Plausible deniability:
Keeping intentions unclear to allow influence while avoiding accountability
e.g: "I was only joking"
Less likely to cause open resistance
Avoids direct conflict
Easier to deny
Keeps a positive social image
Avoids direct conflict
Easier to deny
Keeps a positive social image
Miscommunication
Loss of trust
Frustration
People might not pick up on the cues
Very inefficient
Loss of trust
Frustration
People might not pick up on the cues
Very inefficient
Core ideas: The M influences people's behaviour through high emotional intensity, passion, attention, or urgency. The M controls through high emotional states to cloud other people's judgement and make conformity more likely since the person being manipulated thinks there is an emotional bond and they feel accepted.
Intense emotional energy of every type
High engagment and attention, making the person feel special
Rapid escalation of attention
Makes normal interactions feel emotionally significant
High engagment and attention, making the person feel special
Rapid escalation of attention
Makes normal interactions feel emotionally significant
"We have something rare"
Love bombing:
Flooding someone with attention, praise, affectiona and validation to create an emotional attachment very quickly
eg: Constant texting, excessive compliments
Intense validation:
Making someone feel deeply understood and appreciated to create a powerful connection
e.g: "Nobody has ever understood me like you"
Urgency Creation:
Making things feel very important and immediate to influence impulsive decisions and reduce reflection
e.g: "This opportunity won't come again"
Idealization:
Putting someone on a pedestal to create a desire to maintain approval
e.g: "You're perfect"
Emotional Mirroring:
Reflecting another person's interests and values to build trust
e.g: Agreeing on everything
Dramatic Highs:
Creating memorable emotional highs so the relationship becomes associated with emotional excitement
e.g: Going on holiday in the first week of meeting; dramatic apologies
Flooding someone with attention, praise, affectiona and validation to create an emotional attachment very quickly
eg: Constant texting, excessive compliments
Intense validation:
Making someone feel deeply understood and appreciated to create a powerful connection
e.g: "Nobody has ever understood me like you"
Urgency Creation:
Making things feel very important and immediate to influence impulsive decisions and reduce reflection
e.g: "This opportunity won't come again"
Idealization:
Putting someone on a pedestal to create a desire to maintain approval
e.g: "You're perfect"
Emotional Mirroring:
Reflecting another person's interests and values to build trust
e.g: Agreeing on everything
Dramatic Highs:
Creating memorable emotional highs so the relationship becomes associated with emotional excitement
e.g: Going on holiday in the first week of meeting; dramatic apologies
Creates fast attachment
Builds trust fast
Makes the relationship memorable
Creates emotional investment
Builds trust fast
Makes the relationship memorable
Creates emotional investment
People may get overwhelmed
actions may seem insincere
Difficult to sustain high emotional energy all the time
actions may seem insincere
Difficult to sustain high emotional energy all the time
Core Ideas: The M intends to create emotional deprivation to influence people to chase approval. They influence people through distance, detachment, scarcity and emotional ambiguity. They aim to make other people overthink and obsess over their actions. This is also the hardest style in my opinion because playing hard to get means you're easy to lose or you could be seen as some quiet loser guy so yeah this style only works if you're attractive enough or high status.
Emotional distance
Minimal expression
Social withdrawal
Indifference
Minimal expression
Social withdrawal
Indifference
An example is hard to give for this style as most communication is done by not reacting, but the attitude is: "If I make my approval scarce enough then people will crave it". Essentially, scarcity creates value.
Emotional withdrawal:
Removing warmth and affection to motivate reconnection efforts
e.g: Becoming distant after a disagreement and giving short responses
Silent Treatment:
Refusing communication to create pressure and discomfort
e.g: Ignoring calls and messages
Indifference:
Acting unnaffected regardless of circumstance to create a power imbalance
e.g: Acting unconcerned after something bad happened like breaking up with someone
Withholding validation:
Giving rare approval or recognition to encourage approval seeking behaviour
e.g: Barely acknowledging effort
Emotional inaccessability:
Being difficult to understand to make people work harder for it
e.g: Refusing to talk about feelings and emotions
Removing warmth and affection to motivate reconnection efforts
e.g: Becoming distant after a disagreement and giving short responses
Silent Treatment:
Refusing communication to create pressure and discomfort
e.g: Ignoring calls and messages
Indifference:
Acting unnaffected regardless of circumstance to create a power imbalance
e.g: Acting unconcerned after something bad happened like breaking up with someone
Withholding validation:
Giving rare approval or recognition to encourage approval seeking behaviour
e.g: Barely acknowledging effort
Emotional inaccessability:
Being difficult to understand to make people work harder for it
e.g: Refusing to talk about feelings and emotions
Difficult to confront
Creates mystery lmao
Creates pursuit
Maintains plausible deniability
Creates mystery lmao
Creates pursuit
Maintains plausible deniability
Only works if you're attractive
Very risky
Can cause you to lose relationships
Rarely works
Influence is lost when approval seeking stops
Very risky
Can cause you to lose relationships
Rarely works
Influence is lost when approval seeking stops
I don't think anyone should be trying the cold style as it rarely ever works and it gives a whole negative and depressing vibe and people inevitably lose interest. Most people might realise they're being cold without consciously doing it and my advice is to stop since at the end of the day no one feels sorry for you. You'd have much better success doing the other styles mentioned, especially hot. I will also include in part 2 scenarios and situiations in which these styles can be leveraged and common mistakes people make. Please rep for the effort thankkss
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